When I'm selfless in Paradise and filled up with divine perfection I am truly happy and don't want to go back to myself and the world where I know I will commit sin, knowingly and unknowingly, caught up in the laws of the world.
I don't know how to cope living outside Paradise with a body and ego without committing sin: Without sex, my substitute for Gods love and without men, my substitute for the Lord. I don't know how to live according to His laws in a world where nothing (relationships) last for long and people want immediate gratification. Where hardly anyone truly believe in God and marriage.
I asked God: Can something (sex) be sinful if it doesn't hurt anyone? Then I saw a small white church. Heard its bells ringing loud and clear and understood: Marriage is holy. It is the law of God. Sin is committed when we break Gods law. Sex outside marriage is therefor not holy.
In my experience when I have sex within a relationship and it is love involved I don't feel bad afterwards. When I have had sex without love God let me see and feel dirt in the light. (I do hope the dirt I see is cleansed in the light instead of merely being showed to me.:)
I wonder if God think that any type of sex, with or without love, within the holy marriage is holy and not worse than sex with love outside a marriage. I think we all know the answer to my question. No need to ask God about it. Sex without love in a marriage is not more holy than sex with love outside a marriage. A holy relationship doesn't automatically make everything within that relationship holy. God blesses a relationship based on love. If on the contrary a relationship is based on sex it isn't holy and He wont bless it. Not because sex isnt holy, but sex is not holy when people first and foremost wants sex, not love, from each other. Sex is holy, but can be misused for the sake of pleasure and by that degraded.
So an important thing to ask oneself is: Why do I want to be with this person? Do I really want to live and love or am I basically just interested in the persons sexuality? If there is little attraction to the mind and heart then we better look somewhere else. It is our motives that determines the outcome.
I dont agree that sex is intended for procreation only, but that doesnt mean I think it is meant only for pleasure instead. No. We are more than animals that has an instinct that tells us to make babies and we are more than the flesh that wants to take delight in eartly pleasures. Sex can be a latter to heaven as a meditation to connect with God, a means to share love and by having sex for a long time enliven a deeper feeling of love. A way to experience unity with another person and the loss of ego and the expansion of consciousness. Because sex has so much potensial we should'nt misuse it. Without love sex is degraded and empty. Sex is about unity. The unity God wants us to experience - the love that trancends all differences - is possible to experience through the sex act.
To say sex is something we need like food is to degrade it to a physical matter! I am sad to see this belief among religious people. Of course sex is holy. It is so precious it have to be kept within the holy marriage. Two people who are naked together can be totally naked, meaning on every level, vulnerable, show who they are for real behind the masks, and still be loved. Sex can be a ladder to experience God, so no, it is not like eating. If it wasn't sacred why would God say to gay and single people that they should avoid sex? Sex unifies people and God is all about unity, Bahais knows that very well. Unity is divine. If people have sex as if they are just a body then I get why they don't think it is anything special.
Some say sex is just a physical act so it can not be holy. It isn't even done in heaven. The physical aspect of it is just the frame of it all. People can have sex for different reasons. Some wants to just get rid of tension, some like the pleasure of it, some like the romantic aspect, some like that it is a way to show love and some use it as a form of meditation to connect with the divine. When two people are vulnerable together all kinds of emotions can emerge and be taken care of by the partner. Sex can be all about love and unity on every level. It is not just a physical act.
