Dating

This image of illustrator Angel Boligan makes me think she is using those nails to scratch on the surface on any of those guys she finds kissable to see if he has put some light under there and date him to see if he is one who will care.

Cry woman!

Cry and you will reveal the character of the man you are dating.
I have seen many different reactions from men. One was ashamed because he cared about the people around us, so he was vain. One did not mind at all, caught up in his own world. I actually met two of those. One got upset when I got upset and just wanted to leave. Another understood I was upset and needed to cry so he just came up to me and held around me so I could cry. Another criticised me for making noises and told me to cry silently. One was afraid I was faking it, manipulating a reaction like his x wife had done, so he was just sceptical and very cold towards me, telling me to get it together. It seems like God want to test the guys for me so I can see who they are because i may be upset suddenly for no apparent reason. One guy thought we were going to have sex, when I cried he felt uncomfortable and wanted to leave.

The first time i ever cried in front of a man was when I was 21. I knew he would be like a mother, comforting me.  I am glad God shows me who is worth hanging out with.

Why dating fails

For years we’ve assumed that romantic relationships had to begin with physical attraction in order to expand into the desire for a close emotional bond. Now it’s turning out that relationships can begin with the urge to bond to someone. They may later expand to encompass sexual desire. This type of transition is especially natural for women, but some men have this experience, too.

When I’m really emotionally bonded to someone, I find myself becoming physically attracted to them.—Lisa

Makes me think about dating and how we are suppose to find out if we like each other enough already on the first date. To check if there is "chemistry" meaning physical attraction. No wonder dating doesn't work very well when there is not given time to bond on another level than the physical. If the bond is only on the mental level we assume the person will only be our friend, at most. Because it is not given time enough how we look becomes very important. First impression is everything. What we say on the first date says "everything" about us.