Quotes from Ruth Burrows

  When I mentally went into my mother’s business, for example, with a thought like “My mother should understand me,” I immediately experienced a feeling of loneliness. And I realised that every time in my life that I had felt hurt or lonely, I had been in someone else’s business. If you are living your life and I am mentally living your life, who is here living mine? We’re both over there. Being mentally in your business keeps me from being present in my own. I am separate from myself, wondering why my life doesn’t work.

To think that I know what’s best for anyone else is to be out of my business. Even in the name of love, it is pure arrogance, and the result is tension, anxiety, and fear. Do I know what’s right for me? That is my only business. Let me work with that before I try to solve your problems for you. If you understand the three kinds of business ( mine, yours, and God’s ) enough to stay in your own business, it could free your life in a way that you can’t even imagine. The next time you’re feeling stress or discomfort, ask yourself whose business you’re in mentally, and you may burst out laughing! That question can bring you back to yourself. And you may come to see that you’ve never really been present, that you’ve been mentally living in other people’s business all your life. Just to notice that you’re in someone else’s business can bring you back to your own wonderful self. And if you practice it for a while, you may come to see that you don’t have any business either and that your life runs perfectly well on its own.

Sometimes you may not feel comfortable with your yes to questions 1 and 2. You want to go deeper, but the statement you’ve written, or the thought that’s torturing you, appears to be an irrefutable fact. Your suffering may be caused by a thought that interprets what happened, rather than the thought you wrote down. Let’s say you wrote, “I am angry at my father because he hit me.” Is it true? Yes: you are angry, and yes: he did hit you, many times, when you were a child. Try writing the statement with your added interpretation. “I am angry at my father because he hit me, and it means that _____.” Maybe you would finish this statement with “and it means that he doesn’t love me.”

Let’s play with the statement “Paul should appreciate me.” First, turn it around to yourself: I should appreciate myself. (It’s my job, not his.) Next, turn it around to the other: I should appreciate Paul. (If I believe it’s so easy for Paul to appreciate me, can I appreciate Paul? Can I live it?) Then turn it around to the opposite: Paul shouldn’t appreciate me. (That’s reality, sometimes. Paul shouldn’t appreciate me, unless he does.)

Quotes by G.K. Chesterton

 There's a lot of difference between listening and hearing.

I believe in getting into hot water; it keeps you clean.

Angels can fly because they can take themselves lightly.

Humility is the mother of giants. One sees great things from the valley; only small things from the peak.

Without education, we are in a horrible and deadly danger of taking educated people seriously.

There is the great lesson of 'Beauty and the Beast,' that a thing must be loved before it is lovable.

The Bible tells us to love our neighbours, and also to love our enemies; probably because generally they are the same people. 

To love means loving the unlovable. To forgive means pardoning the unpardonable. Faith means believing the unbelievable. Hope means hoping when everything seems hopeless.

Do not be so open-minded that your brains fall out.

His girth gave rise to an anecdote during the First World War, when a lady in London asked why he was not "out at the front"; he replied, "If you go round to the side, you will see that I am.

When men choose not to believe in God, they do not thereafter believe in nothing, they then become capable of believing in anything. ( My comment: I agree they become capable of believing in anything, therefor the intelligent ones become agnostics.)

If you happen to read fairy tales, you will observe that one idea runs from one end of them to the other--the idea that peace and happiness can only exist on some condition. This idea, which is the core of ethics, is the core of the nursery-tales.

Wit is a sword; it is meant to make people feel the point as well as see it.

A-spot

I searched for information about the A-spot and I found this:

When highly aroused, the uterus lifts up and exposes a tiny space behind the cervix that a partner can stimulate for deeper, more intense explosive orgasms. The spot is usually hidden and is full of pleasurable nerve endings. To help your partner go the distance, try a position that maximizes penetration, like rear vaginal entry or missionary style with your legs up by your head.
An A-spot orgasm comes from the area deep and on the upper wall of the vagina. A cul de sac orgasm comes from the bottom wall of the vagina, underneath the cervix. Women often report that the A-spot orgasm is better than the G-spot orgasm. I believe all women who experience the cul de sac orgasm or the cervix orgasm declare either one to be beyond compare. Barbara Keesling said concerning the cul de sac O, it’s great for when you have a man without stupendous endurance, because it’s the quickest vaginal O. But the trick is that cervix must be up, so you must have tremendous arousal before penetration.https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-difference-between-a-cul-de-sac-orgasm-and-an-A-spot-orgasm-How-do-they-feel-How-long-does-it-take-to-stimulate-properly

https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/a-spot-vagina-female-pleasure
Though the A-spot usually located 5 to 6 inches inside, shorter penises can reach it too, if the receiving partner’s knees are pulled up to shorten the vagina. As with G-spot stimulation, the penis should be aimed toward the front wall, but inserted extra deep to access the A-spot.

Sex educator and pleasure coach Glamazon Tyomi discovered her A-spot while with a partner. “I began to realize how moist I would become in certain positions when my partner was deep. The increase in wetness would also come with a warm, calming, euphoric feeling across my body, and I noticed that it would happen with deep penetration near my cervix... I knew this wasn't something that was commonly experienced or discussed, so I began to do research.

”Positions that shorten the vagina (legs brought closer to the abdomen or chest) can help penetrating partners find the spot more easily,” Tyomi suggests. “I also recommend 'planking' position as a way to locate the spot easily.”

“Fingers can provide the deliberate pressure and steady rhythm that my A-spot likes... I also find it ridiculously hot on a psychological level when a partner fingerbangs me to orgasm this way. It displays a mastery of my body that I find incredibly hot. Toys with curved ends, like the Abby G, are really good at nestling in there and getting at the A-spot, too.

”Our partners love the feeling of our vaginas becoming wetter and tighter, quivering with pleasure… the slippery texture of the A-spot feels good to rub up against.” “The penetrating partner may have to shift a little to the right or to the left, or even shift their partner's legs to one side or the other to access the spot more easily. Patience is key.”

If you continue to hit the A-spot just right, you’ll get an intense orgasm that lasts about 20 seconds longer than any other one. Cadell says that hitting the A-spot should feel similar to the G-spot, without the need-to-pee sensation.

Bahaullah and Abdul Baha on sex, marriage and divorce.

"He is My true follower who, if he come to a valley of pure gold, will pass straight through it aloof as a cloud, and will neither turn back, nor pause. Such a man is, assuredly, of Me. From his garment the Concourse on high can inhale the fragrance of sanctity.... And if he met the fairest and most comely of women, he would not feel his heart seduced by the least shadow of desire for her beauty. Such an one, indeed, is the creation of spotless chastity"(Baha'u'llah, Gleanings from the Writings of Baha'u'llah, p. 118)

"Say: O concourse of monks! Enter ye into wedlock, that after you another may arise in your stead. We, verily, have forbidden you lechery, and not that which is conducive to fidelity."
(Baha'u'llah, Epistle to the Son of the Wolf, p. 49)

"Ye are forbidden to commit adultery, sodomy and lechery. Avoid them, O concourse of the faithful. By the righteousness of God! Ye have been called into being to purge the world from the defilement of evil passions. This is what the Lord of all mankind hath enjoined upon you, could ye but perceive it. He who relateth himself to the All-Merciful and committeth satanic deeds, verily he is not of Me. Unto this beareth witness every atom, pebble, tree and fruit, and beyond them this ever-proclaiming, truthful and trustworthy Tongue."

“Ye are forbidden to commit adultery, sodomy and lechery. Avoid them, O concourse of the faithful,” Bahá’u’lláh states.

"It is forbidden you to wed your fathers' wives. We shrink, for very shame, from treating of the subject of boys. Fear ye the Merciful, O peoples of the world! Commit not that which is forbidden you in Our Holy Tablet, and be not of those who rove distractedly in the wilderness of their desires." (Baha'u'llah, The Kitab-i-Aqdas, p. 58)

And when He desired to manifest grace and beneficence to men, and to set the world in order, He revealed observances and created laws; among them He established the law of marriage, made it as a fortress for well-being and salvation, and enjoined it upon us in that which was sent down out of the heaven of sanctity in His Most Holy Book.

God hath prescribed matrimony unto you...Enter into wedlock, O people, that ye may bring forth one who will make mention of Me amid My servants. This is My bidding unto you; hold fast to it as an assistance to yourselves.

Abdu’l-Bahá has stated the following in this regard:

Bahá’í marriage is the commitment of the two parties one to the other, and their mutual attachment of mind and heart. Each must, however, exercise the utmost care to become thoroughly acquainted with the character of the other, that the binding covenant between them may be a tie that will endure forever. Their purpose must be this: to become loving companions and comrades and at one with each other for time and eternity…
The true marriage of Bahá’ís is this, that husband and wife should be united both physically and spiritually, that they may ever improve the spiritual life of each other, and may enjoy everlasting unity throughout all the worlds of God. This is Bahá’í marriage.
In another Tablet, He has written:

O ye two believers in God! The Lord, peerless is He, hath made woman and man to abide with each other in the closest companionship, and to be even as a single soul. They are two helpmates, two intimate friends, who should be concerned about the welfare of each other.
If they live thus, they will pass through this world with perfect contentment, bliss, and peace of heart, and become the object of divine grace and favor in the Kingdom of heaven. But if they do other than this, they will live out their lives in great bitterness, longing at every moment for death, and will be shamefaced in the heavenly realm. Strive, then, to abide, heart and soul, with each other as two doves in the nest, for this is to be blessed in both worlds.

As for the question regarding marriage under the Law of God: First thou must choose one who is pleasing to thee, and then the matter is subject to the consent of father and mother. Before thou make thy choice, they have no right to interfere.

Divorce is, according to the Aqdas, permissible. But it is discouraged. Both the husband and wife have equal right to ask for divorce, and whenever either of them feels it absolutely essential to do so. Divorce becomes valid even if one of the parties refuses to accept it, and after one year of separation, during which period the husband is under the obligation of providing for his wife and children.

Why should you honor your mother and father?

This commandment has always annoyed me, but now I get it. It isn't like I thought; God taking the parents side as if they deserve respect no matter what and more than children does. It is not about children owing their parents something for bringing them into this world or that parents deserve their respect for some other reason, necessary. On the contrary it is about the childrens well-being. If they get angry at their parents their parents may reject them. The result may be the children reject the parents too and no longer have a family for support. 

Family is a major testing ground to see how well we have developed different spiritual qualities. Can we stay true to ourself no matter the criticism? Can we avoid having our pride get in the way? Can we love unconditionally? Can we see our own flaws when we see theirs? Can we avoid taking things personally when they act unkindly? Can we accept that they don't understand us?

When we honor our mother and father we accept what we was, we accept history, we accept the sometimes ugly reality, but we don't identify ourselves with them, because we are the next generation, more mature than they are.

We should honor our mother and father because that will bring peace to our minds. If they neglect us, criticise us when we cry because of it and kick us out when we are angry at them, we better remember they do the best they can. To honor is to forgive them for their shortcomings. We all have them. 

In the book True Christianity by Swedenborg he writes: 306. In the spiritual sense, “to honor father and mother” means to reverence and love God and the church. In this sense, God who is the father of all, is meant by “father” and the church by “mother.” In the heavens little children and the angels know no other father and no other mother, since they are there born anew of the Lord through the church. Therefore the Lord says: Call no man your father on the earth; for one is your Father, who is in the heavens (Matt. 23:9).

Jesus stretched forth his hand towards his disciples, and said, My mother and my brethren are these who hear the Word of God and do it (Matt. 12:48–50; Mark 3:33–35; Luke 8:21; John 19:25–27). 307. In the celestial sense, “father” means our Lord Jesus Christ, and “mother” the communion of saints, which means the Lord’s church spread throughout the whole world. That the Lord is the Father, is evident from the following passages: Unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given. His name is God, Mighty, Father of eternity, Prince of peace (Isa. 9:6).https://swedenborg.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/swedenborg_foundation_true_christian_religion_01.pdf

Quotes from the quran about the same commandment:https://www.abuaminaelias.com/honor-your-father-and-mother-in-islam/

Muslim quotes about sex

Not one of you should fullfill one’s (sexual) need by falling upon his wife like an animal, but let there first be a messenger between you." "And what is that messenger?" they asked, and he replied: "Kisses and words"— Musnad al-Firdaws Of al-Daylami, 2/55

Imam Ibn al-Qayyim reports from Jabir ibn Abd Allah in his famous “Tibb al-Nabawi” that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) forbade from engaging in sexual intercourse before foreplay.— al-Tibb al-Nabawi, 183

Any kind of vaginal sex position is permissible in Islam, but not anal sex.

In Islam, the husband should have intercourse with his wife according to what satisfies her, as long as that does not harm him physically or keep him from earning a living. The husband is obliged to treat his wife in a kind and reasonable manner. Part of that kind and reasonable treatment is intercourse, which he has to do. Most of the scholars have said that it is obligatory on women alike not to refuse their husbands if they call them as long as the woman who is called is not menstruating or sick in such a way that intercourse will be harmful to her, or observing an obligatory fast. If she refuses with no excuse, then she is cursed. "If a man calls his wife to his bed, and she refuses to come, the angels curse her until morning comes."

— al-Bukhari, 3065; Muslim, 1436. But it is not permissible for a husband to force his wife to do more than she is able to bear of intercourse. If she has an excuse such as being sick or unable to bear it, then she is not sinning if she refuses to have intercourse. Under Islam, sexual intercourse is regarded as a loving act within marriage and should only be by mutual consent.

Sexual intercourse is prohibited:
During menstruation; Verse 2:222 prohibits sexual relations with women during menstruation. Muhammad specifically restricts the injunction "to segregate the women" and "not go near them" in 2:222 to a prohibition against sexual relations with menstruating women.
for forty days after childbirth (puerperium);
during the daylight hours of the month of Ramadan (i.e. while fasting);
on pilgrimage; while in the sanctuary (in Ahram) at Mecca, pilgrims are not allowed to have intercourse. Marriages performed during the pilgrimage are invalid.

Marriage is part of my sunnah, and whoever does not follow my sunnah has nothing to do with me. Get married, for I will boast of your great numbers before the nations. Whoever has the means, let him get married, and whoever does not, then he should fast for it will diminish his desire."— Ibn Majah 1846. The Messenger of Allah forbade celibacy.

Ma’qil ibn Yasaar said: A man came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said, “I have found a woman who is of good lineage and is beautiful, but she can not bear children. Should I marry her?” He said, “No.” Then he came again with the same question and he told him not to marry her. Then he came a third time with the same question and he said: “Marry those who are loving and fertile, for I will be proud of your great numbers before the other nations.— Abu Dawood (2050)

Narrated 'Abdullah: We used to participate in the holy battles led by Allah's Messenger and we had no wives with us. So we said, "Shall we get ourselves castrated?" He forbade us that and then allowed us to marry women with a temporary contract and recited to us:— 'O you who believe ! Make not unlawful the good things which Allah has made lawful for you, but commit no transgression.

After partaking in sexual activity where penetration or ejaculation occurs, both men and women are required to complete a full-body ritual ablution known as ghusl in order to re-establish ritual purity before prayer.

According to Qura'nic verse 2:187, one may have sex during the month of Ramadan, but not during the time of fasting. As such, sex during Ramadan is only permitted at night.

Tell the faithful men to cast down their looks and to guard their private parts ...Tell the faithful women to cast down their looks and to guard their private parts, and not to display their charms except what is apparent thereof and put their scarves over their bosoms...— (Quran 24:30-31)

We also sent Lot: He said to his people: "Do ye commit lewdness such as no people in creation (ever) committed before you? For ye practice your lusts on men in preference to women: Ye are indeed a people transgressing beyond bounds."— Quran 7:80–81

This is all found here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Islamic_sexual_jurisprudence?fbclid=IwAR03gWUDpAFezHl7-tq3RnHYkqQzy9zM4T1LovzA5PeOI9LDNeyaYOEmwSo

The effect of mantras on sexual energy

I feel unbalanced when there is too much sexual energy in certain areas only. I had a lot of sexual energy floating freelee today so I thought I would try to draw it up from the lower chakras by saying my personal mantra (I made by using the words I commonly use when I speak in tounges). When I had repeated it some times I suddenly disappeared into the energy. All I saw was the energy and another woman , with long golden hair, saying another mantra at the same time as me. When I perceived her I became her for a second and spoke her mantra with her voice. Afterwards I said the Bahai mantra Allah-u-Abha and I immediately felt the energy spread out and got a relief from the feeling of being turned on. It is important that the mind is free from thoughts about sex to be able to move the energy from the lowest chakras. If you think about something sensual the energy will stay at the sensual level. If you instead focus on God the energy will definitely move from the physical level. 

I have written about somthing similar earlier in Norwegian here :https://mintankesamling.blogspot.com/2017/10/energiorgasme-tungetale-personlig-mantra.html