Why should you honor your mother and father?

This commandment has always annoyed me, but now I get it. It isn't like I thought; God taking the parents side as if they deserve respect no matter what and more than children does. It is not about children owing their parents something for bringing them into this world or that parents deserve their respect for some other reason, necessary. On the contrary it is about the childrens well-being. If they get angry at their parents their parents may reject them. The result may be the children reject the parents too and no longer have a family for support. 

Family is a major testing ground to see how well we have developed different spiritual qualities. Can we stay true to ourself no matter the criticism? Can we avoid having our pride get in the way? Can we love unconditionally? Can we see our own flaws when we see theirs? Can we avoid taking things personally when they act unkindly? Can we accept that they don't understand us?

When we honor our mother and father we accept what we was, we accept history, we accept the sometimes ugly reality, but we don't identify ourselves with them, because we are the next generation, more mature than they are.

We should honor our mother and father because that will bring peace to our minds. If they neglect us, criticise us when we cry because of it and kick us out when we are angry at them, we better remember they do the best they can. To honor is to forgive them for their shortcomings. We all have them. 

In the book True Christianity by Swedenborg he writes: 306. In the spiritual sense, “to honor father and mother” means to reverence and love God and the church. In this sense, God who is the father of all, is meant by “father” and the church by “mother.” In the heavens little children and the angels know no other father and no other mother, since they are there born anew of the Lord through the church. Therefore the Lord says: Call no man your father on the earth; for one is your Father, who is in the heavens (Matt. 23:9).

Jesus stretched forth his hand towards his disciples, and said, My mother and my brethren are these who hear the Word of God and do it (Matt. 12:48–50; Mark 3:33–35; Luke 8:21; John 19:25–27). 307. In the celestial sense, “father” means our Lord Jesus Christ, and “mother” the communion of saints, which means the Lord’s church spread throughout the whole world. That the Lord is the Father, is evident from the following passages: Unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given. His name is God, Mighty, Father of eternity, Prince of peace (Isa. 9:6).https://swedenborg.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/swedenborg_foundation_true_christian_religion_01.pdf

Quotes from the quran about the same commandment:https://www.abuaminaelias.com/honor-your-father-and-mother-in-islam/