Always have a space for reflection.

You can't choose how to react before you choose what to believe. If you believe the bad words or bad attitude towards you is something about you personally and not the person speaking you may get hurt. So do not jump to a conclusion before you are sure it is worth crying about. If someone is disrespectful it may be they are in a bad mood, it has nothing to do with you so you don't have to think you have lost their respect or your value in their eyes has been diminished. Always try to understand the person who is speaking. 

Selfless and value.

If one wants to feel valuable, one needs to make others feel valuable. How does one do that without always electing others before oneself? It is not what you do that counts the blessings, but how you bear it.

Philippians 2:1-11 

Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.

Romans 12:9-13 

Outdo one another in showing honor.

Matthew 25:40 

And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.’

Mark 9:35

 

“If anyone would be first, he must be last of all and servant of all.”

Matthew 23:11 

The greatest among you shall be your servant.

Colossians 3:23 

Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men

Isaiah 58:6-12 

“Is not this the fast that I choose: to loose the bonds of wickedness, to undo the straps of the yoke, to let the oppressed go free, and to break every yoke? Is it not to share your bread with the hungry and bring the homeless poor into your house; when you see the naked, to cover him, and not to hide yourself from your own flesh? Then shall your light break forth like the dawn, and your healing shall spring up speedily; your righteousness shall go before you; the glory of the Lord shall be your rear guard. Then you shall call, and the Lord will answer; you shall cry, and he will say, ‘Here I am.’ If you take away the yoke from your midst, the pointing of the finger, and speaking wickedness, if you pour yourself out for the hungry and satisfy the desire of the afflicted, then shall your light rise in the darkness and your gloom be as the noonday.

Luke 6:38 

Give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.

Matthew 5:16 

In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.

Romans 15:1 

We who are strong have an obligation to bear with the failings of the weak, and not to please ourselves.

Mark 10:44-45 

And whoever would be first among you must be slave of all. For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”

Galatians 5:13-14 

For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. For the whole law is fulfilled in one word: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”

To judge something as evil is a sign of stupidity.

It is heartbreaking to hear people being afraid and judge others as evil just because some undesirable actions are not understood. And without using empathy (because they are scared or hateful of the person) they will not come to understand that the actions are not evil, just plain egoistical. That is not scary. It is very common. It is scary how stupid we are, and it is obvious that we need a lot of help from the Almighty to see correctly. They who judge think they are better, but they do not use their empathy and that is exsactly what the "evil one" also did not do when he did what appeared to be evil. We are so immature and childish when thinking about our needs first. OH MY GOD! And even expecting others to think of our needs before their own!! When we don't put others before ourselves either! It is so childish to put the responsibility of being mature upon others, in hope of enjoing ourselves as children. 

When we fear someone because we think they are evil we give them our power and get weak. We should never give someone our power, but go to God and let Him reveal to us what we have not yet understood. When we understand a person we can not fear him.

What convinced me of Gods exsistance enough to search for God myself.

What convinced me was two things. First, when I was 14 and saw people (apostolic christians) who were selfless for real! Not just selfless to get attention, or some other kind of reward, like I normally would experience. I became a christan then, but was unsteady because nothing was integrated. I did not know what to do to get in contact with God. (Så jeg har erfart betydningen av å ha en åndelig praksis.)

The next thing was when i was 19 and saw the happiness some christians had after attending a meeting (also charismatic). It was a happiness very strong, and they said it was caused by the holy spirit. Then I thought I could not take the chance to live without the holy spirit if it could be exsisting for real, so I decided to search for it in case it was. And not long after I was blown away by it myself. Thank God!:)

 

The reason there is hate, fear and so on is lack of love or nearness to God. People, or at least me, are holding on to experiences of the lack of love from people. It is dragging us/me down because it is heavy stuff. We know with our minds that it is not true that we are not worth to be loved, and we should not identify ourselves with the strange behaviour we had and still have because the environment was unloving, because that can prevent us from seeking better ones. That behaviour was an image of the mirror we were looking into (our environment).

What I did on my search was to be part of an environment I felt were light and loving. Even though I did not feel worthy, was shameful and was insecure. There I felt accepted and safe enough to be more whole and then the reality could unfold. If one just look at oneself as a body, from others view, everything else is also seen on the surface, and nothing will have meaning. One have to remove the veils that hinder us to experience the depth of reality. You must move your attention, penetrate and have room for at the same time. Be interested IN. There is nothing to lose but the unvaluable and not-eternal things.

There is a difference in the meaning of the words proof and conviction. You ony need the last one. You can search an eternity for proof in this world and never find it, but God can convince you in a second if you want to believe in His exsistence. Then you can see proof everywhere.

What made me really believe in God when I was reading in the Bahai scriptures was that Bahaullah confirmed what Jesus had said. It was like reading the words of Jesus! I was so happy when i saw that! I believed in Jesus as a child, but was never as a grown up one that could believe deeply. The bible was too old to rely on for me completely.  

Lao Tzu quote

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. - Lao Tzu

Abdul Baha about suffering.

http://info.bahai.org/article-1-3-4-7.html

                        God alone ordereth all things and is all-powerful. Why then does He send trials to His servants?

...Tests are benefits from God, for which we should thank Him. Grief and sorrow do not come to us by chance, they are sent to us by the Divine Mercy for our own perfecting.

The more one is severed from the world, from desires, from human affairs, and conditions, the more impervious does one become to the tests of God. Tests are a means by which a soul is measured as to its fitness, and proven out by its own acts. God knows its fitness beforehand, and also its unpreparedness, but man, with an ego, would not believe himself unfit unless proof were given him. Consequently his susceptibility to evil is proven to him when he falls into the tests, and the tests are continued until the soul realizes its own unfitness, then remorse and regret tend to root out the weakness.

The same test comes again in greater degree, until it is shown that a former weakness has become a strength, and the power to overcome evil has been established.

Men who suffer not, attain no perfection. The plant most pruned by the gardeners is that one which, when the summer comes, will have the most beautiful blossoms and the most abundant fruit.

                        The more difficulties one sees in the world the more perfect one becomes. The more you plough and dig the ground the more fertile it becomes. The more you cut the branches of a tree the higher and stronger it grows. The more you put the gold in the fire the purer it becomes. The more you sharpen the steel by grinding the better it cuts. Therefore, the more sorrows one sees the more perfect one becomes. That is why, in all times, the Prophets of God have had tribulations and difficulties to withstand. The more often the captain of a ship is in the tempest and difficult sailing the greater his knowledge becomes. Therefore I am happy that you have had great tribulations and difficulties. For this I am very happy -- that you have had many sorrows. Strange it is that I love you and still I am happy that you have sorrows.

Thou hast questioned concerning ordeals and difficulties and catastrophies: "Are these from God or the result of man's (own) evil deeds?"
Know thou that ordeals are of two kinds: One kind is for trial (to test the soul), and the other is punishment for actions. ("As a man soweth so shall he also reap.") That which is for testing is educational and developmental and that which is the punishment of deeds is severe retribution.
The father and the teacher sometimes humor the children and then again discipline them. This discipline is for educational purposes and is indeed to give them true happiness; it is absolute kindness and true providence. Although in appearance it is wrath yet in reality it is kindness. Although outwardly it is an ordeal yet inwardly it is purifying water. Verily, in both cases we must supplicate and implore and commune to the divine Threshold in order to be patient in ordeals.

Thou hast written concerning the tests that have come upon thee. To the sincere ones, tests are as a gift from God, the Exalted, for a heroic person hasteneth, with the utmost joy and gladness, to the tests of a violent battlefield, but the coward is afraid and trembles and utters moaning and lamentation. Likewise, an expert student prepareth and memorizeth his lessons and exercises with the utmost effort, and in the day of examination he appeareth with infinite joy before the master. Likewise, the pure gold shineth radiantly in the fire of test. Consequently, it is made clear that for holy souls, trials are as the gift of God, the Exalted; but for weak souls they are an unexpected calamity. This test is just as thou hast written: it removeth the rust of egotism from the mirror of the heart until the Sun of Truth may shine therein. For, no veil is greater than egotism and no matter how thin that covering may be, yet it will finally veil man entirely and prevent him from receiving a portion from the eternal bounty.

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Grieve not at the divine trials. Be not troubled because of hardships and ordeals; turn unto God, bowing in humbleness and praying to Him, while bearing every ordeal, contented under all conditions and thankful in every difficulty. Verily thy Lord loveth His maidservants who are patient, believing and firm. He draws them nigh unto Him through these ordeals and trials.

Assuredly gold is purified by being submitted to the fire and if it contain any alloy or imperfection, it will disappear. That is the reason why violent tests become the cause of the everlasting glory of the righteous and are conducive to the destruction and disappearance of the unrighteous.

The wisdom of all these tribulations that poured successively upon thee was this, that thou shouldst be prepared and made ready for this Cause, that thou mightest expect the attainment to the greatest guidance, for all these trials were but a preparation for thine entrance into the Most Exalted Paradise and the beginning of obtaining this most great benefit.