I have met a guy and spent a few weeks with him. It's like the love I had for my dad when I was little and that I have missed feeling for him as an adult is back, but now this guy is the object for it. He looks a little like him and acts a little like him and is receptive for my love quite a bit. I have talked to him about it and he is not sure if it is a good thing or not. Perhaps it's not good. Probably it is both good and bad, just like my dad was.
Reserved is one thing they have in common. And that is a challange for sure, making me insecure, and tired after trying to connect and fail over and over again. I withdraw in the end and become reserved myself, dissappointed for not getting him hooked on anything I talk about. Then he complains because I am reserved and shutting him out. We have talked about this.
Another challange is that he has expectations that I am sure I don't fullfill. It makes me insecure knowing that I dissappoint him. In the beginning I expected outbursts because of it, but they didn't come. He doesn't want to get angry. He wants to accept what is, be relaxed. He is very sensitive to how I feel and how much attention I give him.
He is very interested in moving towards nearness, to recognize our defences and handle things differently. He has suggested me to read a book written by Hanne Hostrup: "Kærestebilleder." It is interesting. But listen to this:
Reserved is one thing they have in common. And that is a challange for sure, making me insecure, and tired after trying to connect and fail over and over again. I withdraw in the end and become reserved myself, dissappointed for not getting him hooked on anything I talk about. Then he complains because I am reserved and shutting him out. We have talked about this.
Another challange is that he has expectations that I am sure I don't fullfill. It makes me insecure knowing that I dissappoint him. In the beginning I expected outbursts because of it, but they didn't come. He doesn't want to get angry. He wants to accept what is, be relaxed. He is very sensitive to how I feel and how much attention I give him.
He is very interested in moving towards nearness, to recognize our defences and handle things differently. He has suggested me to read a book written by Hanne Hostrup: "Kærestebilleder." It is interesting. But listen to this:
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