How I solved my hell with mum.

I went through the hell of trying to settle with my mum from age 23. I did speak my mind about how horrible I thought what she said to me was. I tried to raise her, saying again and again that to critizise is not okey. At first she wouldn't listen, but I did not give up and after some times she started to listen. I continued for years after that and now she is another person.She had not understood that she talked down to me. She thought she sounded objective. And the sarcastic bit she thought was okey because it was her humour, she said, even though she was mean to me.

People have different standards, that's for sure, so I introduced her to christian communities and spiritual healing to give her higher standards. She even took a course in practising healing her self.

She say now I was a pain in the ass back then, and I say she was horrible and needed that pain, or else we wouldn't have the relationship we have now. She said to me yesterday that she did know what love was, but that it had drowned by the anger she felt towards my dad who did not care at all.

Yeah, another thing I did when raising her was to force her to talk about my father whom she was so pissed at and stopped her from brushing the subject and feelings under the carpet again. When she had thought through her issues with him and felt the pain and anger she had room for love again.