Tre viktige arketyper som religiøs/spirituell

Maria: kjærlig omsorg, Jesus: kjærlig visdom og Det indre barnet: den Gud elsker.

Den Gud elsker er mennesket som har valgt å bli Guds barn som mottar all den kjærlighet og visdom hun trenger for å bli mer som Jesus og Maria. Det som skiller en ekte religiøs fra en som er skinnhellig er at den ekte har blitt som et barn ved å ha kastet fra seg sitt gamle jeg: Omvendt seg fra synd og troen på at hun selv vet best og kan klare seg kun ved menneskelig hjelp, samt behovet for å bli akseptert, trodd, forstått og betraktet som normal av andre.

Ved å ønske å tjene Gud, kjærlig som Jesus og Maria, vil barnet motta og tilegne seg de guddommelige egenskapene så de kan komme til uttrykk på en unik og best mulig måte, samt av Gud motta hjelp for å overkomme sitt lavere selv (bli helgenaktig).
Noen såkalt spirituelle (new-agere) oppfattes av meg som om de med stolthet tror de er bedre (mer spirituelle) enn religiøse mennesker fordi de innbiller seg at religiøse mennesker er skinnhellige og ikke tenker selv. (Selv om noen religiøse er slik betyr det ikke at det er kjennetegnet på en som er religiøs. Jeg synes det er mer presis å si at noen religiøse er mindre engasjerte i den spirituelle verden enn andre.) Gud ber oss derimot om å finne sannheten selv (vha den hellige ånd, selvsagt.) Å bære en fasade og ikke tenke selv er derimot kjennetegnet på en smålig person. Jeg tror også at de som oppfatter andre som skinnhellige gjør dette fordi de selv er det i en eller annen grad og at det new-agere mangler for å virkelig bli spirituelle er den moral religiøse er opptatt av, samt den totale omvendelsen til Gud som må til for å overkomme stoltheten som hindrer enhver dyd (inkludert den visdom og løsrevne holdning som må til for å "tenke Selv". (Man blir ikke klok av å tenke selv, men ved å kunne reflektere tanker fra høyere bevissthet.)

What is icaros?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r5P1RqUkzws

Sex, drugs and ayahuasca

This man has some great opinions  https://www.facebook.com/290215444906176/videos/741296886323129/?v=741296886323129

He says that the modern man think he owns his body so he can do what ever he likes with it, but sex is not gymnastics, its an intimate exchange of energies. It's an intimate exchange of thoughts and "airs". When we go from relationship to relationship we receive all the negativity and bad energies into our bodies and those restless "airs" effects out thinking. When we respond to our selfish desires these desires brings more suffering to us. When sex occurs outside the framework of legitimate love of the formed couple in which there is a spiritual connection it exacerbate our feeling of loneliness, our isolation from life. In order to live in unity you must live in a certain state of purity. Sex is pure when it is a physical or a physical metaphor of the previous communion of two souls in the spiritual realm. First we must unite spiritually with the person, purifying our bodies, then sex can be sanctified. Outside this frame sex brings restlessness and loneliness due to our illegitimate behaviours.

Cervical orgasm (cervix orgasm)

Excerpts from different pages found on the internet about cervical orgasm:

Cervical Orgasm – This is the most beneficial orgasm according to the Tantric tradition, also called cervico-uterine orgasm. Contractions of the deep vaginal muscles and uterus, while the pc muscle might stay relaxed; The orgasm will feel deeper, more full and intense and yet more “round” than the g-spot orgasm, and will be accompanied by strong emotions, love, unity, ecstasy and transcendence, tears, crying and a feeling of deep satisfaction; The experience of pleasure is deep and profound, but in the same time, the cervical orgasm is experienced and appreciated as an experience which is beyond bodily pleasure, and is sometimes felt beyond the physical body; The cervical orgasm is naturally subliming and lifting the sexual energy towards the higher chakras Stimulation of the areas near the cervix will cause similar kinds of orgasm. These areas include the posterior fornix, which is located under the cervix, along the wall of the vagina which is next to the anus, and the anterior fornix (AF or AFE) or the A-Spot, which is located on the upper wall of the vagina, between the cervix and the g-spot.

Cervical orgasm involves a lot of warm up with the cervix often feeling overly sensitive or painful on first touch. Cervical orgasms feel more powerful and consuming, spreading deeper through the body. 

They are reported as feeling like a vibration or tingle which emanates through the entire body, providing an intense climax which lasts a lot longer than G-spot or clitoral orgasms.

In reflexology, the cervix is the point of the heart and as such, it’s believed that these orgasms encourage feelings of love and deeper connection. Because of this, reflexology practitioners believe that you’re more likely to achieve cervical orgasm with a partner that you feel close and relaxed with or alone in a safe, tranquil environment.

Some professional sex therapists who have a holistic approach on sex and pleasure even claim that those who are able to achieve the cervical orgasm have just reached a new state of spiritual transcendence—this intense feeling of pleasure is unparalleled and it can generate very intense love feelings. The pleasure goes far beyond the physical satisfaction.

Achieving a cervical orgasm requires a strong dose of mindfulness, so if you want to make one happen for you, consider taking up a regular meditation practice. The thing is, cervical orgasms are complicated: They may be more of a combination of stimulation than just the cervix alone. After all, you can access areas around your cervix with deep penetration, and the cervix can aid in stimulating those areas. You’ve heard about a full-body orgasm. That’s how a cervical orgasm feels. And what an experience it is: Cervical orgasms flood your body with healing, feel-good chemicals that lower stress hormones and leave you feeling amazing. Many women say to achieve them, you must be absolutely centered on your pelvis. If you want cervical orgasms, mindfulness matters!

Your cervix can be tender if you hit it too hard, so take it slowly. And keep in mind that deeper penetration isn’t just a physical act for women. Our minds and our emotions are also heavily involved, so don’t be surprised if you have feelings that get stirred up or you have significant life realizations along the way.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=95&v=DSfJ3VGgvXk

Deep thrusts that are angled toward the back end side of your vagina will create the intensity and intimacy that you crave.

Stimulating the cervix can cause very intense feelings of love with your partner and spiritual transcendence.

If you are feeling open emotionally and open to yourself and your partner you are more likely to experience it. However, it’s not likely to occur during casual sex or if you don’t feel very open, safe and relaxed with your partner.

My final thoughts: I agree to most of what is said here, but when it says intense, I don't experience it physically intense like a peak orgasm, but emotionally intense! I will also add that it seems to be important that the penis is shaped in a certain way. When I see a penis that has a thin tip I think: Good for anal. When it has a thick tip: Good for vaginal (with the hope of cervix orgasm). Needless to say, if the penis isn't reaching the cervix well enough (a slight touch won't do) there is no chance she will have such an orgasm. The angle the penis hits the cervix is of importance. He can try to reach it by penetrating her in front, half way on the side. She will probably adjust her body so it hits her cervix perfectly.

I have only experienced this orgasm with a few people and these had some things in common: They could last long without coming (had good self control and was present), they were not far from the point of no return most of the time we had intercourse, they had a large penis, the chemistry was good, they were spiritual and I felt completely safe with them so to surrender was not hard at all.

For her to be able to experience this orgasm she should sacrifice peak orgasms for a long time. If she has had many peak orgasms her cervix has probably become tight and stiff. This can be fixed by avoiding peak orgasms and by massaging the cervix untill it is soft. This can be done by squeezing the cervix with two fingers from each side untill it no longer hurts and then with a penis or fingers straight on.

When I have had a cervix orgasm I have already had intercourse untill the point where love is produced inside of me. A while after that happens I lose contact with the feeling of his penis inside my vagina and float beyond my body as my consciousness expands. When I reach the orgasm I have reached heaven and connect with the divine. I speak in tounges when I am connected to the divine energies. (The man should just keep on thrusting at this point untill she communicates to him that he can slow down. He should not worry that something is wrong, even though she may sound strange. Sometimes women cries when they have an orgasm because it is an emotional release too. This is a good thing. After the orgasm he may hold her in his arms. Never try to stop her from expresssing herself. After a full cervix orgasm I feel intense happiness.

Cul-de-sac and A- spot orgasm.

When highly aroused, the uterus lifts up and exposes a tiny space behind the cervix that a partner (or a dildo) can stimulate for deeper, more intense explosive orgasms. The spot is usually hidden, says Keesling, and full of pleasurable nerve endings. To help your partner go the distance, try a position that maximizes penetration, like rear vaginal entry or missionary style with your legs up by your head.

An A-spot orgasm comes from the area deep and on the upper wall of the vagina. A cul de sac orgasm comes from the bottom wall of the vagina, underneath the cervix. Women often report that the A-spot orgasm is better than the G-spot orgasm. I believe all women who experience the cul de sac orgasm or the cervix orgasm declare either one to be beyond compare. Barbara Keesling said concerning the cul de sac O, it’s great for when you have a man without stupendous endurance, because it’s the quickest vaginal O. But the trick is that cervix must be up, so you must have tremendous arousal before penetration.https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-difference-between-a-cul-de-sac-orgasm-and-an-A-spot-orgasm-How-do-they-feel-How-long-does-it-take-to-stimulate-properly

https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/a-spot-vagina-female-pleasure
Though the A-spot usually located 5 to 6 inches inside, shorter penises can reach it too, if the receiving partner’s knees are pulled up to shorten the vagina. As with G-spot stimulation, the penis should be aimed toward the front wall, but inserted extra deep to access the A-spot.

Sex educator and pleasure coach Glamazon Tyomi discovered her A-spot while with a partner. “I began to realize how moist I would become in certain positions when my partner was deep. The increase in wetness would also come with a warm, calming, euphoric feeling across my body, and I noticed that it would happen with deep penetration near my cervix... I knew this wasn't something that was commonly experienced or discussed, so I began to do research.

”Positions that shorten the vagina (legs brought closer to the abdomen or chest) can help penetrating partners find the spot more easily,” Tyomi suggests. “I also recommend 'planking' position as a way to locate the spot easily.”

“Fingers can provide the deliberate pressure and steady rhythm that my A-spot likes... I also find it ridiculously hot on a psychological level when a partner fingerbangs me to orgasm this way. It displays a mastery of my body that I find incredibly hot. Toys with curved ends, like the Abby G, are really good at nestling in there and getting at the A-spot, too.

”Our partners love the feeling of our vaginas becoming wetter and tighter, quivering with pleasure… the slippery texture of the A-spot feels good to rub up against.” “The penetrating partner may have to shift a little to the right or to the left, or even shift their partner's legs to one side or the other to access the spot more easily. Patience is key.”

If you continue to hit the A-spot just right, you’ll get an intense orgasm that lasts about 20 seconds longer than any other one. Cadell says that hitting the A-spot should feel similar to the G-spot, without the need-to-pee sensation.

How to deal with blue balls

These are not usually a problem, unless you’re “edging,” that is, getting too close to the edge of orgasm—or just starting out with your recovery after masturbating very frequently. Said one veteran:

You are unconsciously tightening your PC muscle group.

What you want to do instead is direct your focus on your perineal area. The area of your scrotum. Just direct your attention there and relax. When you are having intercourse continue directing your attention there.

This will also open up a lot more pleasure. And you will not have blue balls afterwards.

When i started nofap, it went away within a week and there is zero pain in my testicles.
I found that cool (not ice-cold) water really helped, as did taking a lukewarm bath/shower. Try to think of completely unsexy topics or focus on something else.
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-porn-use-faqs/what-about-blue-balls-or-lovers-nuts/

Dr. Kenneth Ray Stubbs on energy orgasms

Some people have called it sacred sexuality.  Some have called it energetic sexuality, where sexuality is a way of expanding our awareness, our sense of connection with God/Goddess, and our beloved is a representation of a deity.  It is a way of connecting with the energies throughout the universe, and having a cosmic orgasm.

I even think there are four different bodies that can have orgasms.  They have very different experiences associated with them. What I call a light body orgasm is like an energetic explosion that does not require erection or sexual arousal, although it may concur with a sexual activity.  It can be an explosion in the center of the head, in the chest, in the pelvis area or some people call it a full body orgasm.  When one has this type of orgasm it is throughout the whole physical body, and even extends beyond that.

Those of us who are just focusing on having intercourse or oral/genital or manual/genital activity are most likely to have what we would call a sexual orgasm.  They are absolutely wonderful but from an esoteric point of view there are other types of orgasms, which may or may not coincide with sexual activity.  Yet they still feel explosive or some sort of a connection that I would say are generating experiences.  In a moment, I will tell you about why I call that sacred.  But I am thinking about different types of orgasms that aren't even considered as orgasms by some people.  But most people don't even have these other types of esoteric experiences.

I think they can be achieved easily once you learn how to do it.  Some people use intense breathing.  Some people use breathing and different body postures or breathing and massage.  The way that I focus on it is simply sending energy to a partner and a partner sending energy back. My first ones were in conjunction with intense breathing.  I thought I was passing out.  It was like an explosion in my head.  There was nothing happening with my genitals.  It wasn't even in a sexual context, but it sure felt like an orgasm, though I did not have an erection.  And I did not have an ejaculation.  It had a different type of pleasure to it.

See, we live in a culture where the physical and, I would say the spiritual and the profane, or the spirit and the flesh, the sacred and the secular are considered not only different, but in opposition.  It's really hard to think something that is associated with a sexual activity, called orgasm, could be had by a celibate mystic, such as St. Teresa of Avila, about the 15th or 16th century in Spain. 

She was having all these energetic experiences.  Her body was moving and she was doing cartwheels of different descriptions.  The first time I heard about that I thought, “Oh, she's having an orgasm.”  This is many years ago and I kept hearing things and hearing ideas, and I began to put it together. This is not uncommon to mystics. 

But within a religious context in which so much of us have grown up in where sexuality is not a part of our spiritual expression, it is antithetical.  It would be hard to think of something like that as having sex with God, as being sex.  So we need to draw that paradigm that the sexual and the spiritual are in opposition.  We have to realize that there have been many cultures throughout humankind that have incorporated ceremonial sexuality and orgasms as a part of the divine expression.

If we go to a church like the Pentecostal church today, where people get happening and really rocking and rolling and getting in the groove with the primordial beat from the organ and the piano.  People are singing and shouting.  The minister is saying something and the audience is singing back.  Huh, huh, huh.  I've seen this happen, where someone just flops out and falls on the floor, shaking all over.  People come over and fan this person who has fallen down.  They help him or her back to their feet.

They say they really caught the spirit.  Well, that most likely, and I have seen this happen, in a traditional Christian religious context, some people would call this an orgasm, where the person had a pelvic floor contraction at the same time.  Or they had what I call a light body orgasm.  It's hard to say.  But those explosive moments could indeed be considered orgasms.

But these are only two of the four types of orgasms that I think about.
I am proposing that sexual orgasms, and these other explosive types of what I call light body orgasms the way I have just described, actually generate an energy that these other bodies can use, which enables us to be more and more aware of the divine, in each other, in other dimensions.

But basically, this is a very common practice that is taught in a lot of Tantra seminars where you sit or lie across from your partner.  You can gaze into your partner's eyes.  You go into breathing in unison.  But the whole idea is that without doing physical movement, without having explosive, lusty, passionate interaction with your partner, you take the time to just be with your partner. 

This is very common in certain types of meditation seminars.  It's a way of beginning to have what I call spirit/body orgasm, which is not explosive.  But you have a sense of your energy fields literally becoming one with each other and expanding. 

When I do this with a person and they are doing it in reciprocation with me, whether they are sexual partners or not, I perceive, after a little bit of time it's almost as if there is an energy field on a balloon around each one of us.  And it expands outward to encompass the other person’s energy field. It feels like soft cotton candy.  Like we are in this cotton candy balloon.  The energies are very soft. 

But that is still what I would call a spirit/body orgasm.  That is my languaging.  That is an energy generating process.  But, in terms of a practical sense of making love with someone, it brings us into being very present with each other, dropping the world, honoring and feeling connected to the person, slowing down.  Then you might then move into more what we consider a sexual interaction with the physical bodies coming together -touching, smelling, tasting, caressing each other to the point, perhaps of having orgasms or multiple orgasms or multiple ejaculations for that matter.

My perspective is that your partner is there and you gradually hold the intent of expanding your energy field to encompass theirs, not just staring in their eyes, not just breathing in unison, but it really focuses on the intent to expand your energy. You want to send energy to your partner. And, of course to perceive your partner's energy being expanded to include you. 

While we are meditating with our partner, sending energy, in a sense, to our partner, and it is reciprocal, we also have the sense of “I am a one with all that is” or oneness.  We have a sense of, as we make love, I am making love to all of existence.  This is hard to fathom, given again that we think about sexuality as something that is antithetical to our religious spiritual experiences.

But in many cultures, where they have similar sexuality, they call on the deity to provide abundant crops, for example.  And I see that sexuality and orgasm are incredibly powerful catalyses for our, what we called spiritual development.  The dance of energies in an intimate sexual context with another is available to us in all parts of our lives.

Now that can be really heavy for some people, because that sounds like you're having sex with anybody and everybody.  Well, the truth is, energetically that is happening.  We are energetically connected with people that we feel good about, negative about, people that we are working with in the work place, people who we have as friends, and when we are having a beer at the bar, when we are in a seminar, when we are meditating in a circle, we are energy dancers.

Learning to do this energy dance in a very intense way with sexuality with a sexual partner is one of the most powerful and effective ways to learn how to dance with energy.  Then we can take that out into other parts of our life.

What I am calling a soul/body orgasm has been the most elusive of the four general types of orgasm about which I am talking.  With the spirit/body orgasm, I feel a oneness, a merging energy with another person.

If it also expands, and I feel like I am connecting with all that is, that's when I am going to begin to understand how the two are different.  Both of them are very subtle.  They are not explosive, earth shattering, volcanic type orgasms.  They can be in conjunction with an explosive type of orgasm.  I think that takes more and more meditation and ceremonial practice of sexuality to experience that.

But it is like I am with another person.  We are sending energy to each other.  But there is a sense that my energies are listening to, feeling everything in all of existence.  That's the best language I can give.  It's far beyond my partner and myself.  I'm not talking about going into a deeply altered state, where I don't recall anything happening.  I'm talking about feeling like I am here and I am everywhere.

It's a very, very expensive type feeling.  It is subtle.  And it is sweet.

Full interview here: http://podcasts.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/230-expanded-lovemaking/episodes/3029-sacred-

Karezza is not “regular sex” but without the orgasm.

Karezza is a gentle, affectionate form of intercourse in which orgasm is not the goal, and ideally does not occur in either partner while making love.

During a lengthy period of perfect control, the whole being of each is merged into the other, and an exquisite exaltation experienced. This may be accompanied by a quiet motion, entirely under subordination of the will, so that the thrill of passion for either may not go beyond a pleasurable exchange. Stockham

Our emphasis is on affection, and we stay well away from the edge of orgasm. If we sense ourselves slipping into performance mode while making love, we pull ourselves back into relaxation with deeper, longer breaths. This relaxes our abdominal breathing and reverses the increase in muscular tension and the urge to restrict breathing that coincide with the buildup to orgasm.

Regular, “heat ‘em up” foreplay doesn’t work very well with Karezza

Typical foreplay is geared toward heating yourself and your partner up with orgasm as the goal. The pleasures of Karezza, however, do not rely on the rewards that come from approaching one’s own orgasm or inducing it in a lover. They depend on the rewarding feelings that come from mutual adoration and generous touch (bonding behaviors). Initially Karezza therefore feels all wrong. It seems too non-goal-oriented and relaxed. When I first explained it to my husband, he couldn’t believe his ears: “A woman who is asking me to do less?”

So, without standard foreplay, what do we do when we get in bed with each other?

It worked best to begin intercourse in a position that did not allow for much movement. Even so, it was extremely easy to escalate into good old, familiar sex as we added intercourse to our nightly affection. One strategy my husband and I now use is to make sure we put “snuggle nights” in between “intercourse nights.” Snuggle nights are useful refresher courses for our nervous systems. Even a little bit of cuddling offers a taste of relaxed satisfaction with no goal whatsoever. When we next have intercourse it is easier to stay in the tranquil mindset ideal for Karezza.

As far as actual intercourse goes, we move far more slowly than we did during conventional sex. In addition, we fall into total stillness frequently while making love. Some of the most gratifying and profound experiences occur when not moving. As a result, our lovemaking goes in waves, somewhat like breathing. Erections also come and go—and arise again when we start kissing after a pause. (Visit Karezza Korner for comments by other couples about their experiences.)It worked best to begin intercourse in a position that did not allow for much movement. Even so, it was extremely easy to escalate into good old, familiar sex as we added intercourse to our nightly affection. One strategy my husband and I now use is to make sure we put “snuggle nights” in between “intercourse nights.” Snuggle nights are useful refresher courses for our nervous systems. Even a little bit of cuddling offers a taste of relaxed satisfaction with no goal whatsoever. When we next have intercourse it is easier to stay in the tranquil mindset ideal for Karezza.

We kiss and gaze into each other’s eyes a lot. We also let each other know how loved we feel with wordless sounds of pleasure and reverent, or playful, touch—depending upon our mood. Sometimes we make a conscious effort to diffuse the sexual energy from our genitals throughout our bodies by tightening the muscles of our pelvic floor and breathing the energy up. Sometimes when we close our eyes we notice flashing lights in the third-eye region of the forehead. Sometimes we use the technique of completely relaxing our pelvic muscles, as advised by Michael and Diana Richardson.

We make love in very comfortable positions, where our weight is supported with a minimum of tension. Side-lying position, with my legs wrapped around him, is a favorite. We also sometimes fall asleep connected, which makes waking up especially enjoyable. Because we never “finish,” we’ve noticed that a flirty energy continues to flow outside the bedroom.

With Karezza you ease your sexual tension without resorting to orgasm. Dr. Lloyd wrote that Karezza leads to complete dissipation of congestion, complete discharge of nervous surplus, complete relief from sexual tension, and more complete satisfaction than orgasm.

Using Karezza’s gentle intercourse, we discovered that we can make love for as long as we need to until any sexual tension melts away entirely—as long as we don’t fall back into hungry behavior, or begin fighting ourselves by going close to the edge of orgasm. During lovemaking, the emphasis is on stillness and heart-centered feelings. If the energy begins to build into goal-oriented sensations, we simply relax back into stillness.

The feelings during these quiet periods can be especially profound, as if we have entered a timeless cocoon of delighted contentment.

I experience what I think of as a “soul orgasm.” It isn’t connected to reproductive sex in any way. It can be produced even without sex, although sex is a great way to produce it. As we gently make love, I imagine us both in a glowing ball of light. I feel as if our spirits have merged. For hours after this kind of sex session, if I think of my wife, the feeling of deep love refills me, just as if I were back in bed having sex. —Todd

Flirting with “the edge” can increase frustration, even if no one climaxes. Frustration equates with high dopamine, and when dopamine goes too high it can lead to tension, resentment, and subsequent cravings. Going too close to orgasm can also build congestion in the genitals, which may cause sharp pains.

I just couldn’t believe how effortless Karezza was. This man described it perfectly:

For a long time I’d been doing Taoist-style sex with my wife with good results—using exercises, lovemaking techniques, and energy visualizations. However, I decided to set it aside temporarily to learn more about Karezza. The first thing I noticed was that Karezza got the same results as my old Taoist practices. But Karezza required no specialized energy work. All I did was to remain nearly still while engaged in sex and breathed slow, deep breaths. I did nothing else. Anyone could do Karezza.

I soon started to sense another feeling that I didn’t recognize—a deep, satisfying feeling. I guess it was the oxytocin, the cuddle hormone. It feels like peace and love all mixed up together—a sensation of being in love with life. —Larry

Karezza works because bonding behaviors work. In fact, Karezza is itself a delicious, intimate, soothing bonding behavior. There is nothing mysterious about this, even though its effectiveness in relieving sexual tension may strike you as remarkable after you master it.

There was a warm glow in the area between our navels and pubic hairline that just demanded that we lie there together motionless to feel the gentle warmth it was radiating. This went on for twenty to thirty “timeless” minutes. Then slowly we inched toward nuzzling in the genital area. Very slowly we got to having intercourse sideways and it was amazing—lots of wetness to make it easy, and lots of control so no frenzy by either. We were both amazed and so loving in the stillness. It is a truly incredible experience. R. is delighted and feels so pleased that he didn’t feel the need to come, which has been a big concern for him. It was such a powerful, loving experience. —Gina

Sometimes Karezza is just pleasant, gentle intercourse that leaves us refreshed and more balanced. Sometimes it’s an amazing, heart-opening experience for which we can hardly find words. The outcome is not in our control. All we can do is keep our biologically driven habits out of the way, and enjoy what bubbles up. Striving is counterproductive. We focus on comforting each other, not fanning sexual hunger.Karezza’s effects are subtle and cumulative

Karezza can be a bit like watching paint dry at first—albeit with the added joys of a companion and an increasing sense of well-being. It does not produce rapid, obvious results (as, for example, a new foreplay technique might). Instead its effects are cumulative. We needed several weeks of pleasant, but patient, consistency to see why we had made the effort to try it. During that time, we experienced a growing sense of empowerment, optimism, and connectedness with others. We felt as if we were “in the flow.” Yet these changes seemed so natural (and well-deserved), that it was easy to miss the link between cause and effect.

The Karezza way doesn't require climax by either man or woman, since it emphasizes intimacy, harmony, and unity. It also takes a lot of practice to make it work right, and the couple wishing to practice Karezza should be patient. It takes time to harmonize energy fields, emotions, rhythms, and responses between two persons. Expect to practice at least a dozen times before you begin to see increasingly delightful results. —Bernard Jensen, MD

Karezza is a return to equilibrium. The energy it produces is not “edgy,” but rather lighthearted. With or without clothes, it feels more like two dolphins frolicking. We tend to laugh a lot, to find just the right times to make love, and to enjoy hugging or touching each other at other times.

You need to try Karezza for at least three weeks to be in a position to compare the benefits with conventional sex. Otherwise you may not taste what life is like beyond the ups and downs of the post-orgasmic passion cycle.

We often learn the most about Karezza from our inadvertent departures from it. We never “go for” orgasm, but it happens occasionally. It’s the perfect reminder of why we stick with this practice. During the two weeks after an orgasm, we notice a temporary dimming of good feelings, and we are always delighted when, like clockwork, we come back into sync at the end of the cycle.

You may believe that you will feel more frustrated the longer you avoid orgasm. Yet if you experiment carefully with Karezza, using lots of relaxation and generous affection, you are likely to find that this is not true.

I have experienced great feelings of well-being after non-orgasmic sex over long periods of time. The contact with the person becomes the orgasm, the sexual contact becomes the orgasm, and then there is no need for orgasm. —Mike

In our experience, there was surprisingly little inner conflict while learning Karezza, as long we took a gradual approach and remembered to wallow luxuriantly in the soothing pleasures of touch and connection. As Karezza lovers we grow more balanced and therefore more sensitive to every pleasurable nuance. Certainly, we have done a lot more giggling and enjoyed a lot more harmony.

Above all, Karezza teaches us to put each other first. See Karezza FAQs or visit Karezza Recent Posts. You can also learn more about Karezza from these two free books by A. B. Stockham, MD and J. W. Lloyd, MD. Also see Bernard Jensen MD’s suggestions for Karezza lovemaking, and this interview with Stanley Bass about his book: Energy Karezza.

https://www.reuniting.info/wisdom/what_is_karezza