The more sensitive you are and the less normal orgasms you have the less stimulation is needed to increase sexual energy. If you relax and meditate on the slight touch that is given you will be able to feel the sexual energy separate from the body. Then you are in control of it and can move it upwards from one chakra to the next when one chakra is filled up.
Physical touch is not needed to increase sexual energy. To avoid normal orgasms is enough. One can also use visualization or relaxation and meditation with the sexual energy as the focal point. This can increase more sexual energy than a lot of physical stimulation. The more relaxed and focused you are less friction and fast movements is needed to increase the sexual energy. It is hard to feel the energy itself (separate from the body) when there is fast movements and a lot of friction.
When sex is used as a tool for meditation with the goal of increasing and lifting the energy to higher energy centers (chakras) you don't need to include penetration and french kissing. You can include it gradually, but you can't start the meditation with it. First you need to develop the energy and keep it under your attention. If not you are out of the meditation and back to normal sex where the energy is in control of you, not the other way around. You can include more and more stimulation as long as you have the energy under your attention (= control). You may or may not want to include more physical stimulation. When you are a beginner you may not be able to control the energy when it gets too physical, so take it easy and start slowly.
I once got so aroused that I reached a peak and fell down into valley orgasm just by receiving the slightest touch not even meant to be sexually stimulating because I hadn't had a normal orgasm for months. The man that touched me didn't even know that I got incredibly horny because I didn't act on the fantasies that popped up in my mind.
The more attention you give to the touch you receive the less pressure is needed to stimulate you. The more you relax the easier it gets to be able to feel the sexual energy separate from the surface of the body.
Fast tounge movements are unnecessary just like the fast movements that some use during intercourse. When you have relaxed enough to be able to feel the energy separately you can include kissing, penetration or other ways of stimulating the sexual energy. But never miss focus on the energy or you will not be able to have an energy orgasm and you may be tempted to have a normal orgasm. When you lose your attention on the energy it will take control of your body, so use reins on your horse to keep the body in control.
If you avoid normal orgasms you can have energy orgasms instead. You can lift the energy when you can feel it separate from your body by the will of your mind from one chakra to the next. I recommend learning Barbara Carellas technique. She shows how to have an energy orgasm on youtube.
If a finger touches you slightly when you are busy doing or thinking you will probably not take much notice of it, but if you are relaxed and receptive you will feel it better. If you meditate on it it may appear magical. You may see the light that shines from it. The one touching can consentrate and make sure the finger (or more fingers and the whole hand of course) express a feeling of love that may open up the receiver.
