An answer to: how do I still my mind?

Are you able to be objective to your thoughts? I mean, if you constantly have thoughts about a problem I think to be mindful about the fact that you want to solve the problem by understanding it deeply enough to actually do that (solve it) is the way to go instead of just beeing bothered about an endless stream of thoughts about it that don't solve anything because they are too shallow and negative. If you are aware of the fact that you have a problem and want to solve it you may get assistance; a brilliant thought comes in and interfere with the bunch of stupid and negative ones and are able to dissolve them because the interfering thought is more vibrant and true and was the thought missing to be able to understand the issue and be free from it. Then it is easy to decide not to think about anything and focus on something else than thoughts, or continue to be objective to thoughts and detect new problems to solve the same way. The purpose of meditation is not to supress thoughts, as you know. You don't get rid of thoughts that comes because you need something enligtened. Meditation makes it possible to understand things deeply and become less disturbed as the problems are being solved. Some call this deep state of being when you understand fully contemplation. There is of course thoughts that are just loosely connected to a problem and that are not worth spending your attention on. Then you can, not suppress, but push them away as if they were flies in your face once you are aware of their insignificance. You are in control of what you want to focus on.

The neighbours

The neighbours on my left side are a couple who argue a lot, or more like she screams at him for a really long time, probably because he is a very bad listener, or more likely, he is not willing to change. The first and only time I met them he smiled so much to me I wondered what he was up to. Anyway. The doorbell rang yesterday. I didn't expect anybody that early and I checked my mobile and nobody had contacted me, so I didn't open. Then it rang again after a short while. I decided to take a peak out of my open bedroom window in case someone was planning to jump in and rob me, expecting I wasn't home. There he was right in front of my window, if possible, smiling even more, standing in a bathrobe and asks me: Have you rung on my bell? No! Are you sure?

Dagens sitat

Hvem som helst kan vel synes religion og New Age er tullete. Cluet er som med alt annet å fjerne slør menneskene har skapt og komme til essensen. Akkurat som du må fjerne dine egne slør for å finne Gud.
Ingen religiøs skrift kan fortelle deg sannheten, men den kan peke på den. Det er du selv som må finne den.

Two great blogpost from Darius Cikanavicius

http://blog.selfarcheology.com/2014/06/setting-boundaries-with-toxic-people.html

http://blog.selfarcheology.com/2014/04/the-burden-of-being-over-controlled-as.html

How I solved my hell with mum.

I went through the hell of trying to settle with my mum from age 23. I did speak my mind about how horrible I thought what she said to me was. I tried to raise her, saying again and again that to critizise is not okey. At first she wouldn't listen, but I did not give up and after some times she started to listen. I continued for years after that and now she is another person.She had not understood that she talked down to me. She thought she sounded objective. And the sarcastic bit she thought was okey because it was her humour, she said, even though she was mean to me.

People have different standards, that's for sure, so I introduced her to christian communities and spiritual healing to give her higher standards. She even took a course in practising healing her self.

She say now I was a pain in the ass back then, and I say she was horrible and needed that pain, or else we wouldn't have the relationship we have now. She said to me yesterday that she did know what love was, but that it had drowned by the anger she felt towards my dad who did not care at all.

Yeah, another thing I did when raising her was to force her to talk about my father whom she was so pissed at and stopped her from brushing the subject and feelings under the carpet again. When she had thought through her issues with him and felt the pain and anger she had room for love again.

Bogeyman

Do you feel proud
when you make your girlfriend, child and me cry?

Do you get a kick out of being at war with me?
I certainly don't get a kick out of you.

What a waste of life
being such waste to the world.

Soko